Finding Happiness in “The Grass isn’t Always Greener”

I’m someone that has to constantly remind myself of how lucky I am. I take a lot of things for granted, and I know that of myself, I get it. Like many other people, I never feel like things are good enough. Like, I feel that things could always be better –

  1. if I wasn’t sick
  2. if I lived in California like I wanted to in college
  3. if I lived by the beach
  4. if I could travel more than just the east coast
  5. if I had a bigger house
  6. if I was skinnier

and so on.

But life doesn’t get happier when you achieve things like this. Life gets happier when you realize the grass isn’t always greener, and there’s no point in being jealous of people who can do all the things you can’t. There’s just not. Being happy despite your circumstances is happiness that will stick. 

Sometimes I get frustrated with where Kyle and I live. It’s not my favorite place in the world, but I try really hard to love this part of our life, and accept it for what it is. I look for the silver lining every day – one being, “at least we’re together!” LOL. And my mind is constantly wondering about other places, and what it would be like to finally visit them. Places I’ve only been able to dream about for so long.. and then someone asked a question in one of my travel groups.

“what’s number 1 on your travel bucket list?”

A lot of people said America, and the first thing I thought was, “ew, why? Greece is so much prettier. The ancient architecture in Italy is so much better. this place and that place are so much cooler.”

BUT AMERICA IS STILL COOL. I mean, it’s still a vacation destination for people in other countries. Why would I think otherwise? America has serious beauty that so many people wish to see, and for some reason, I’m so eager to leave. But just this simple little question put so much into perspective for me!


Just because you’re not where you want to be, doesn’t mean where you are is not good enough. It is. You may hate it, But the grass isn’t always greener on the other side. There are bad things and good things about anywhere you may go, anywhere you may live, and any phase of life you may find yourself in. It’s up to you to make the most of it regardless of where you end up in this world.

Make the most of you beautiful days & in the meantime, work your ass off to get where you want to be in the future.

xo, k


  1. I really appreciate this post Kaleigh. It took my years to not listen to the “what ifs” and to stop comparing myself to others, in order for me to realize where I was in life was pretty darn good! When I started doing this, I started experiencing true blue happiness! Thank you for this reminder xo

    1. It’s a process, girl! And it takes time! I’m so glad you’re with me on this journey though, it’s awesome on the other side, huh?? xo

  2. All i have to say is i agree with everything!! I myself have said everything mentioned. I’m still trying to learn to just “be” and be happy.

    1. hahaha – I’m glad!! It’s hard and sometimes we need daily reminders, but eventually it will become nature to just “be”. Good luck!! xox

  3. Great reminder to appreciate what we have and the good things about it. And really, even if we achieve all those wants, new ones pop up to take their place.

  4. i agree with you, the grass is never greener somewhere else – it is green where you water it. We recently moved to a new country, and even with all the excitement of something new and an adventure around the corner, there have still be challenges and we are still working things out. Life is all about figuring stuff out, and sometimes the journey is more than just reaching the destination.

    1. Yes!! Green where you water it – absolutely! That sounds awesome, by the way! Despite the struggle, you will look back on this and love the decision you made.

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