HEY! Aren’t these the cutest pillow cases EVA? I bought some like this a little while ago from World Market but I ended up not being too crazy about them, so when I got connected with Susannah, I was really excited. They are from her line, Oh Susannah which is actually based right here in NC! She has tons of cute pillow cases, and then a whole category for couples. The couples ones are seriously adorable, and they’re not all “cutesy”
some of them are funny and have nothing to do with being a couple, they just match. She also sells mugs, blankets, and paper goods with her designs! You can shop her stuff at OhSusannah.com or just click on any of the photos in this post!
SO! Kyle & I have officially entered year five of our relationship (well, last month. I’m late, I know.) and we’re starting to forget what it’s like to not have each other. LOL. Every year it seems we both mature individually, but together and in our relationship, too. And every year it reminds me why it’s always good to wait when it comes to marriage. Not that getting married early is wrong – it’s not. I just see more benefits in waiting, I guess. Like we are learning so much, still. We’re constantly learning more about each other, but we’ve been together so long that it still blows our minds when we learn something new.
I’ve learned some of the most important lessons in my relationship this year and I think there have been a lot of what others might consider to be “make it or break it” moments, but our relationship is what it is because we love each other so much and we’re willing to continuously work on it and make it better. It also helps that we’re both very understanding of our … downfalls? Like neither of us ever expect perfection out of the other because we know we can’t possibly live up to that kind of standard ourselves.
Compromise, Compromise, Compromise. This year, we learned a lot about compromise. Especially me. Kyle is definitely more down to Earth than I am. I have this idea that I can do whatever I want whenever I want because that’s what we as humans and Americans have the freedom to do. I want to go everywhere, I don’t care if I don’t have any money. We can do it anyways – but .. not really. LOL. Kyle sees the world in a more practical way and he sees that saving money is important and he knows his priorities are straight. We are and will always be two totally different people with different personalities, work ethics, priorities, and everything else. Acknowledging these differences, accepting them, and realizing how much we love each other made it so much easier to open the doors for compromise and even further, being willing to in the first place. I’ve had to compromise on our living situation for his career, and he’s made them so I can go back to school and have a job that I love even if it comes with inconsistent paychecks. 😉
Be Present, Put Kindness At The Forefront, And Be Clear As Hell. Sometimes when you live with someone, or you’ve been with someone for a while, you kind of just put them aside for something else. They’re around all the time, you can just do something online while they’re sitting next to you, and you’re still hanging out. Which, in reality, isn’t how it goes. LOL. Your partner needs attention. Undivided attention. Time spent together is important. And be niiiiice! It’s so easy to be mean and take things out on your person when you live together, and that’s something I do to Kyle alllll the time. Without even realizing it! And sometimes he just says, “Hey. You’re bein’ aggressive as shit, take it down a notch.” Or he thinks my attitude is aimed at him because I never discussed what I was actually upset about. Sometimes I just have to walk around with a disclaimer on my forehead. But things are always 100x easier between us when we’re kind and clear and put importance on spending time together, uninterrupted. One of our favorite things to do from time to time is find a movie on the Firestick, Netflix, or Redbox, and order a pizza. It’s the BEST.
Put Yourself Aside for Once. I spent a lot of time hating myself, so once I got to a point where I didn’t, and I found my passions, I didn’t want anything to stand in my way. I thought, “these are my selfish years. I am going to be selfish. I will not sacrifice my happiness for anyone. I will not do anything if I do not want to do it.” Which is all fine and dandy if you don’t have anyone in your life. But when you do, you can’t really think that way and stay in a healthy relationship. I had to sort of step outside my box and look at things from a different perspective. I spent a lot of time with my head in the clouds wondering if where I was and where I was headed were truly what I wanted for my life. But when all is said and done, regardless of our ambitions, wanderlusts, and passions, what we all crave is some kind of stability, a healthy mind and body, and a secure relationship; someone to do life with.
Overall, it’s been another amazing and eye-opening year with the goofball that I love. I don’t think there will be a whole lot of change in the upcoming year, but life always finds a way to surprise you.